If there is one thing in life you are certain of, it is the fact that no matter what your parents love you. You may not have the perfect relationship with them but whatever you do, they will love you. So you really don’t want to disappoint them. But what if what you want, is going to disappoint them anyway?
Parents always want the best for you. I like to believe that and in my case it is certainly so. But what if I don’t want what they want for me? I have struggled with this for a while. Pleasing my parents versus what I wanted for me. I’ve learned that you need to do what works for you, because in the end you are the only one who is responsible for your own happiness. You’re going to disappoint people anyway, no matter what you do. But as long as it makes you happy, you made the right decision. People need to accept the you you want to be.
A few months ago, I wrote a post about getting my septum pierced. My parents really weren’t happy about that at all. And they certainly aren’t afraid to tell they hate it. ALL THE TIME. Every time I go to visit them, they always ‘advise’ me to get rid of it. And it’s really frustrating because this is who I am. I love my piercing. It’s not that I can’t appreciate honesty, I do. There are also a few friends who expressed their feelings about it. One time. I do not want nor need to be confronted by it all the time. Just accept who I am already! Don’t let physical features define who you are as a person!
In March, I also got two tattoos on my arm. One represents the birthdays of my parents, my sister and me, and the rose is the favourite flower of my grand-mother and godmother Marie-Louise. I’ve always been a sucker for tattoos. I’ve wanted them for a while now and finally decided to get one (or two or…) done.
I knew my parents wouldn’t approve. And yes they are disappointed in me. But I love them. I love what they represent, I love the way they look, I love everything about them. When I go to visit my parents I always dressed appropriately with long sleeves, so they didn’t even know I had them until a couple of days ago. I thought that honesty would be better. Honesty is always better. So I told them about the tattoos. They haven’t really responded but I know they disapprove. They just need a little time to adjust to the idea I guess.
In the meantime I love the fact that I finally had the courage to speak up, and be who I want to be. You shouldn’t feel ashamed about what makes you happy. If you want something, go get it! Make yourself happy! Even if that means disappointing the ones you love. But if it’s true love, they will always find a way to accept the you you are becoming!