If there is one thing in life you are certain of, it is the fact that no matter what your parents love you. You may not have the perfect relationship with them but whatever you do, they will love you. So you really don’t want to disappoint them. But what if what you want, is going to disappoint them anyway?
Parents always want the best for you. I like to believe that and in my case it is certainly so. But what if I don’t want what they want for me? I have struggled with this for a while. Pleasing my parents versus what I wanted for me. I’ve learned that you need to do what works for you, because in the end you are the only one who is responsible for your own happiness. You’re going to disappoint people anyway, no matter what you do. But as long as it makes you happy, you made the right decision. People need to accept the you you want to be.
A few months ago, I wrote a post about getting my septum pierced. My parents really weren’t happy about that at all. And they certainly aren’t afraid to tell they hate it. ALL THE TIME. Every time I go to visit them, they always ‘advise’ me to get rid of it. And it’s really frustrating because this is who I am. I love my piercing. It’s not that I can’t appreciate honesty, I do. There are also a few friends who expressed their feelings about it. One time. I do not want nor need to be confronted by it all the time. Just accept who I am already! Don’t let physical features define who you are as a person!
In March, I also got two tattoos on my arm. One represents the birthdays of my parents, my sister and me, and the rose is the favourite flower of my grand-mother and godmother Marie-Louise. I’ve always been a sucker for tattoos. I’ve wanted them for a while now and finally decided to get one (or two or…) done.
I knew my parents wouldn’t approve. And yes they are disappointed in me. But I love them. I love what they represent, I love the way they look, I love everything about them. When I go to visit my parents I always dressed appropriately with long sleeves, so they didn’t even know I had them until a couple of days ago. I thought that honesty would be better. Honesty is always better. So I told them about the tattoos. They haven’t really responded but I know they disapprove. They just need a little time to adjust to the idea I guess.
In the meantime I love the fact that I finally had the courage to speak up, and be who I want to be. You shouldn’t feel ashamed about what makes you happy. If you want something, go get it! Make yourself happy! Even if that means disappointing the ones you love. But if it’s true love, they will always find a way to accept the you you are becoming!
I’m the type of girl who loves to spend her money. Next to clothes, shoes and accessories, a lot of my money goes to books. If I had to choose between a new pair of sneakers or a new book, I would definitely go for a new book because I believe something magical can happen when reading a book. I love everything about it: the journey, the feel of turning the pages, the scent…
This Christmas, I got two books from Taschen and I couldn’t be happier. Taschen is an art book publisher founded by Benedikt Taschen in Cologne, Germany. It’s the place to be for those who love design, fashion, photography,… Althogether: everyone who loves to read quality books should visit Taschen.
The first book I got was: 365 Daby-By-Day: Fashion Ads of the 20th Century. It’s a fashionable calender that you can use year after year. Every day comes with a quote and an inspiring image.
The second book I got is :Fashion Designers A-Z Prada Edition. I got the banana print! What I love about this is that I have one of the 2000 copies that are made in this Baroque-inspired print. Next to the banana-fabric, the book is also available in the feminine tiny “hearts,” the abstract geometric “diamonds,” and a floral fabric reissued for Prada from the 1960 Holliday & Brown archives. The book is crafted by hand at a bindery in the heart of Italy, and stamped with a unique number, every copy is an instant classic! A real eye-catcher!
If you love books as much as I do you will be interested in the Taschen Sale. Every six months, Taschen organizes a sale where you can buy every book on your wishlist with a huge discount (minimum 50%). From thursday the 22nd to sunday the 25th of january you can shop your showpiece, don’t miss out!
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I have been wanting to get my septum pierced for months and Saturday I finally found the courage to do so and I couldn’t be happier. Why was I struggling to get it in the first place? There are two major reasons why it took me so long. First of all I’m a pussy when it comes to pain. I’m the type of person who looks things up on the internet only to feed my own fear. In my Google search history you’ll find things like: “Septum pain level”, “septum piercing gone wrong”,… I’ve watched plenty of videos of girls (and boys) getting their septum pierced only to discourage myself from getting what I really want. I know it’s wrong to do this but I really can’t handle myself. Yes, I admit, I am the that kind of girl who googles any ‘unusual’ pain I experience. If it were up to the internet I have had all types of cancer, survived several strokes and I’m that one in a hundred who suffers from a certain kind of weird illness. The internet is lovely but if you have a tendency to be a hypochondriac like me, the internet is your worst enemy! For those who want to get their septum pierced but are a bit scared like me: yes you can feel a little bit of pain, but it really isn’t that bad at all!
The second reason why it took me so long to get it done was the reaction I would get from others. Before getting my piercing, I asked several people how they felt about people with their septum pierced. Most of the responses I’ve got were negative ones. But in the end I don’t really care about what other people think. I do this thing called whatever the fuck I want! And as you can see, my piercing is making me pretty damn happy and happy girls are the prettiest!